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Life/love Sucks - Martoch - 06-23-2007
My short, very experienced advice is move on as soon as you can! The longer you think about why and how and all of that, the more it will drive you crazy! Don't spend another minute on that cheater...life isn't going to wait for you, so you gotta get moving on with it. The "funny" part about your story is that if you would have snooped through her myspace BEFORE finding out she cheated, she probably would have given you the ol' "you don't trust me" bullshit that all cheaters seem to say.BTW, I hate myspace! I just found out a few days ago that my wife checked out a sexy picture of one of her old coworkers that she just came in contact with through myspace. She tried to tell me that she didn't "look" at the picture...she said that she just wanted to read the comments. She must think I'm pretty damn stupid! We're still not on the best of terms right now because I'm pretty hurt over it. I would have felt slightly better about it if she just checked out some random stranger, but she knows this guy in person and he lives here. <img src=\"http://forums.NIGHTOWLpro.com/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/down.gif\" style=\"vertical-align:middle\" emoid=\":down:\" border=\"0\" alt=\"down.gif\" />
Life/love Sucks - Dagon - 06-23-2007
<!--QuoteBegin-Martoch+Jun 23 2007, 05:32 PM<div class=\'quotetop\'>QUOTE(Martoch @ Jun 23 2007, 05:32 PM)</div><div class=\'quotemain\'><!--QuoteEBeginMy short, very experienced advice is move on as soon as you can! The longer you think about why and how and all of that, the more it will drive you crazy! Don't spend another minute on that cheater...life isn't going to wait for you, so you gotta get moving on with it. The "funny" part about your story is that if you would have snooped through her myspace BEFORE finding out she cheated, she probably would have given you the ol' "you don't trust me" bullshit that all cheaters seem to say.BTW, I hate myspace! I just found out a few days ago that my wife checked out a sexy picture of one of her old coworkers that she just came in contact with through myspace. She tried to tell me that she didn't "look" at the picture...she said that she just wanted to read the comments. She must think I'm pretty damn stupid! We're still not on the best of terms right now because I'm pretty hurt over it. I would have felt slightly better about it if she just checked out some random stranger, but she knows this guy in person and he lives here. <img src=\"http://forums.NIGHTOWLpro.com/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/down.gif\" style=\"vertical-align:middle\" emoid=\":down:\" border=\"0\" alt=\"down.gif\" /><div align=\"right\"><a href=\"index.php?act=findpost&pid=225436\"><{POST_SNAPBACK}></a></div><!--QuoteEnd</div><!--QuoteEEndYeah, she actually asked me what I was doing going through her "stuff." She doesn't have a right to complain anyway because she went snooping around on my computer before. Only I had nothing to hide...
Life/love Sucks - Ruste Dowg - 06-23-2007
Move on on mate that's all there is to it, simple to say i know but it aint worth hanging around to hear any more crafted lies to get her out of the mess she made.Trust is something earned so give someone else a chance to earn yours.Good luck <img src=\"http://forums.NIGHTOWLpro.com/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/thumbsup.gif\" style=\"vertical-align:middle\" emoid=\":thumbsup:\" border=\"0\" alt=\"thumbsup.gif\" />
Life/love Sucks - adam - 06-23-2007
The best advice I can give from experience is to completely wipe her out of your life. The faster you do that, the better off you are. Right now, you're best off hanging out with friends as much as possible and meeting new people. The only thing that will heal that sinking feeling is time, which is the bad news. As far as trusting someone else goes, it's a chance you have to take if you want to be happy. Most of life seems like a big gamble, so if you don't always take the chances, you may miss out big time; not that it applies to every situation in life. Life is one big learning experience, so use this as something to learn and grow from. Just stay positive and you'll make it man. Best of luck.
Life/love Sucks - Ruste Dowg - 06-23-2007
[quote=adam,Jun 23 2007, 06:34 PM]Most of life seems like a big gamble, so if you don't always take the chances, you may miss out big time.Amen to that brother <img src=\"http://forums.NIGHTOWLpro.com/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/thumbsup.gif\" style=\"vertical-align:middle\" emoid=\":thumbsup:\" border=\"0\" alt=\"thumbsup.gif\" />
Life/love Sucks - shummy - 06-23-2007
Better sooner than laterI am probably the oldest guy on the board and the bottom line is better to figure it out before you get married and have kidsWife and I went thru a couple patches - not this bad but communication issues and definite jealousy and accuations a couple times.Better tto find out now and get on with your lifeI hate to be a male pig but this happened to me with girlfriends before I got married and the best answer for me was to tie one on at the local strip club and get lap dances until I could no longer walkTake care - you always have friends hereShummy
Life/love Sucks - Crash - 06-23-2007
Thought I'd chime in on this just because something similar happened to me. But it happened to me less than a year into a marriage.A. You were supposed to find those pics. Trust me. It was conceived.B. Don't let it get turned around on you. When backed into a corner dogs will do whatever necessary to come out on top.C. Move on now. Don't waste any more time on this. It's hard, but each day will get easier. If it happened once, it'll more than likely happen again.And IMO myspace is complete bullshit. I hate it. So let it go man . . . there's always a better fish in the sea. She wants you to cry and feel all sad. Don't play into that. Just distance yourself as far away from her as possible and keep contact to an extreme low or better yet, none at all.
Life/love Sucks - VF 31 - 06-23-2007
women friggin suck, thats all there is to it. i used to respect them, but after countless stories like this and getting screwed over myself a few times, i really just kind of dont realistically see women as humans. <img src=\"http://forums.NIGHTOWLpro.com/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/laugh.gif\" style=\"vertical-align:middle\" emoid=\":lol:\" border=\"0\" alt=\"laugh.gif\" />but hey thats me <img src=\"http://forums.NIGHTOWLpro.com/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.gif\" style=\"vertical-align:middle\" emoid=\"
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Life/love Sucks - unique devil - 06-23-2007
I'm a therapist and I see this ALOT. Not only that but I've been there done that. In a nutshell everyone is right. She wanted you to find those pics and the computer. She's been hiding them for so long now leaving them out is not a mistake. She figures you would find them and it so she don't have to. And thats exactly what you need to to do. Suck it up and drive on as they said in the Army. Lose all contact with her. Get rid of what reminds you (I'd keep the dog, he seems innocent...) of her and don't sit around the house and play your guys favorite song and crying, easier said than done I know. Get out of the house, go hang with friends. Having a rebound isnt always a bad idea, just dont get overly involved emotionally because your not suit to deal with that just yet. Shes not the end of the world. She messed up not you. Shes the one who lost something, you've gained insight and understanding and now know you deserve much better. Lifes not over, it just started. If you need to talk PM me. I offer free advice and will listen.
Life/love Sucks - Dagon - 06-23-2007
Damn guys, I think I'm cheering up already. <img src=\"http://forums.NIGHTOWLpro.com/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.gif\" style=\"vertical-align:middle\" emoid=\"
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