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Life/love Sucks - Dagon - 06-23-2007
Well, whoop'd doo. Just found out my girlfriend of 4 years has been seeing some other guy. Don't know why I'm writing this here, I don't know a whole lot about you guys, but I really don't have too many friends, and I just need to tell someone... She was actually my fiance, we've been engaged for awhile. About two weeks ago when she told me she "wanted to be friends for now because [she] I don't know what I want." That was hard enough, but today, I went to her house to get Bailey ("her" dog; I take care of most of the time, so I consider him mine) while she and her mother went out of town for today. She either wanted me to find these photos or she's just an idiot, because there was an album laying right where Bailey's food/medicine/toys were. I opened it up and sure enough there were pictures of her and some other guy making out throughout the pages... My heart sank. I didn't know what to do; I still don't. I was so ready to marry this chick, and I thought I could trust her... Never throughout our relationship did she give any hint that she would be a cheater. It's like I was her whole world and she was mine. She also has a myspace that is set to private which I've never seen. (I don't use myspace, so again, I didn't think anything about it, just thought it was a place for her and her friends and I never asked her about it) I figured the pictures I found warranted me to get on her computer- thankfully, she was still logged in and I went through her comments- sure enough she was talking to this guy in the pictures (as well as a few other "gentlemen"). I called her out about it- she won't give me straight answers, so I just told her to have fun with her new boyfriends and to stay the hell away from me. I just don't know what to do... I still love her but I know I shouldn't because of what she did. I could never take her back because that trust we had is dead. I don't even know if she cares...This just sucks... I can't stop crying, and I just want to forget about all of this, but I can't. I think I'll remain single for the rest of my life. I'm starting to think "true love" does not exist. <img src=\"http://forums.NIGHTOWLpro.com/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/down.gif\" style=\"vertical-align:middle\" emoid=\":down:\" border=\"0\" alt=\"down.gif\" /> <img src=\"http://forums.NIGHTOWLpro.com/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/sad.gif\" style=\"vertical-align:middle\" emoid=\"
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Life/love Sucks - WarLocK - 06-23-2007
Man, I'm sorry to hear this.... really I know it hurts. Look at it this way, at least you found out now instead of after marriage. There are tons of great women out there looking for a great trustworthy guy like you - you'll find her soon enough. Just stay strong and don't give up on love. It will find you at the right time. Take care man, I wish you the best!
Life/love Sucks - Dagon - 06-23-2007
<!--QuoteBegin-WarLocK+Jun 23 2007, 03:28 PM<div class=\'quotetop\'>QUOTE(WarLocK @ Jun 23 2007, 03:28 PM)</div><div class=\'quotemain\'><!--QuoteEBeginMan, I'm sorry to hear this.... really I know it hurts. Look at it this way, at least you found out now instead of after marriage. There are tons of great women out there looking for a great trustworthy guy like you - you'll find her soon enough. Just stay strong and don't give up on love. It will find you at the right time. Take care man, I wish you the best!<div align=\"right\"><a href=\"index.php?act=findpost&pid=225403\"><{POST_SNAPBACK}></a></div><!--QuoteEnd</div><!--QuoteEEndThanks man. But really, I don't know how I could ever trust another person after this. There was absolutely NO signs of betrayal throughout the 4 years... I can't deal with this ever happening again. She's leaving me messages like "lets talk about this." I want to, but I know that there can be no future here. I guess I'll just have to ignore her even though I am dying to speak to her again.
Life/love Sucks - BELLAMY - 06-23-2007
Its going to be really hard but dont ever speak to her and move on.... Once a snake.... ALWAYS a snake! MYspace and facebook are the number 1 cheating sites on the web.......
Life/love Sucks - hornetsfanjc - 06-23-2007
<!--QuoteBegin-BELLAMY+Jun 23 2007, 02:47 PM<div class=\'quotetop\'>QUOTE(BELLAMY @ Jun 23 2007, 02:47 PM)</div><div class=\'quotemain\'><!--QuoteEBeginIts going to be really hard but dont ever speak to her and move on.... Once a snake.... ALWAYS a snake! MYspace and facebook are the number 1 cheating sites on the web.......<div align=\"right\"><a href=\"index.php?act=findpost&pid=225405\"><{POST_SNAPBACK}></a></div><!--QuoteEnd</div><!--QuoteEEndDamn straight! Don;t fall for the same crap again man!Hope everything gets well!Jason
Life/love Sucks - Funkytown - 06-23-2007
she gotta go.. <img src=\"http://forums.NIGHTOWLpro.com/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/wink.gif\" style=\"vertical-align:middle\" emoid=\":wink:\" border=\"0\" alt=\"wink.gif\" /> there is way to many girls out here man..
Life/love Sucks - JoMaX - 06-23-2007
Listen dude if she pulled that shit she simply isnt worth it man.4 year's is awhile but this doesnt mean shit in my eye's.....if you are willing to cheat than you simply aint worth a damn.When stuff like this happen's it can be for the better dude.Look at the bright side of thing's.It doesnt look like you have any kid's together just a dog so that make's stuff a little easier to cope with man.But in all honesty man move on bro and it's time to party it up.The ballpark is now open for you to have some fun man so go and get yourself some other woman and take some caution this time around man.Like they say the nightclub's or bar's are the worst place to start a relationship.Dont get me wrong though.....the bar scene is great for one night stand's lol.Just look at it like this man......you are free to do as you wish right now.....have fun with it right now because i am sure another relationship will transpire in the near future.
Life/love Sucks - imperialhockmaster - 06-23-2007
Damn man that sucks, i feel for you bro, i was in your same situation, i actually got married to the girl though, i loved her too, but she did it once and begged me dude not to leave her, i mean she was literally hangin on my ankles as i packed my last bag, and i felt at that time i loved her enough to forgive her, but the thought never went away, it was like i relived it everytime we had sex, and it was only 4 months bro she did it again with some other guy, so i feel the same way you do, cant trust em and true love doesnt exist, its temporary, theres only one kinda love and its unconditional, thats the love you have for your kids,family and friends, thats true love to me, i have a good girlfriend now but i dont let myself get attached anymore she could cut out or i could and i wouldnt even think twice about honestly, and i like it that way, just hang out with some bros man thats what helped me, i know you said you didnt have too many friends but im sure you got at least a couple of good ones, if your ever in michigan bro ill hook you up, show ya around, we got some fun clubs and cool things to do around here, keep your head up bro theres plenty of women out there that will appreciate you she aint worth your time, and shes throwing red flaggs on purpose, scanless women, dont look back bro!!!!!
Life/love Sucks - dean7879 - 06-23-2007
dont worry mate. there is no point being with her if she is fed up with the relationship. it just wouldnt work. 4 years is a long time. it happens to everyone and it hurts to a high extent, but you WILL get over her and you will meet other people. relationships neevr last forever. people have to move on. thats part of life and i wish you the best through your troubled times which will be soon over, i guarentee.all the best
Life/love Sucks - Dagon - 06-23-2007
I appreciate all the support guys. Her brother is on my side with this and told me that he would hook me up with some girls if I ever wanted. Sounds good about now... He actually told me she was cheating on me awhile back but I didn't believe him because of what my girlfriend had told me about him. <img src=\"http://forums.NIGHTOWLpro.com/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/down.gif\" style=\"vertical-align:middle\" emoid=\":down:\" border=\"0\" alt=\"down.gif\" />