06-25-2007, 05:11 PM
There are few things in life that hurt as much as losing someone you love. That being said...it definitely does suck. The only cure for this is time and distraction (albeit a temporary relief). What you have to remember is that if you block yourself off from love/relationships for too long you're actually going to hurt yourself even worse than she did. Just take some time to get things straight, but don't lose your sense of compassion and your will to love another. Getting angry and avoiding girls for too long is simply a defense mechanism. I know this because I've been avoiding them for about a year myself. I'm feeling better all the time and I couldn't have wished for a better group of friends to help me through the hard times. Adam who spoke in this thread before is one of my closest friends. He lives about 10 minutes from my house and was always there to help me last summer. In fact I went to Monster Mania shortly after the break-up and met quite a few guys from this board. While they may have not known what was going on in my personal life...each of them helped me to have a fantastic time and forget about my strife. This just goes to show you how many wonderful people there are in the world. Don't worry about finding "the right girl." I don't believe there is such a thing...truth is there are several "right girls" maybe even hundreds. We'll all eventually get to where we need to be. Just find something that makes you happy...the more well-adjusted you are...the more attractive you will be to everyone.If all else fails...listen to "No Woman no Cry" by Bob Marley and the Wailers.Cory