And if you want something to make you feel better, go watch dazed and confused. You CAN NOT watch that movie and not be happy. That is a scientific fact!
Yes... we've all been there. It's very painful. But if you truly care for her, respect her wishes... even if you don't understand or agree with them. That will tell her a lot about you that you really are willing to respect her feelings and decisions. As a church-going person myself, consider this a challenge from above. It's a test of your character... don't give in and you will be rewarded for it.
Hey partner, i like many people know exactly what your going thru, maybe not the same situation but just caring for someone and then losing them for what ever reason hurts like hell, ive seen some great advice given on here and alot of its probably better then mine, but id say dont even let the chick know it bothers you, kill her with kindness, smile, say hi occassionally, but only in passing do you say anything, keep it short and sweet to nothing at all, i mean women can be cold, and sometimes there isnt even a reason, i personally dont keep women to close, yea i have a live in girlfriend but am divorced, will never remarry and wouldnt care if my ol lady left me tomorrow to be honest, shit that would be a heaven sent blessing!!!! But i remember what it was like to meet someone and experience all the cool shit two people share when getting to know one another, enjoy the good times you did have with her, and who knows, you two go to the same church, maybe timing just isnt right, keep your head up, god has someone for everyone, and when you meet that someone you will know it, while you are feeling heart broken and lonely <img src=\"style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/sad.gif\" style=\"vertical-align:middle\" emoid=\"ad:\" border=\"0\" alt=\"sad.gif\" /> , she also is lonely and wondering <img src=\"style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/wub.gif\" style=\"vertical-align:middle\" emoid=\":wub:\" border=\"0\" alt=\"wub.gif\" /> where you are at this very moment and only time stand between you two.....
<!--quoteo(post=281496:date=Oct 23 2008, 10:25 PM:name=shadowmyst)<div class=\'quotetop\'>QUOTE(shadowmyst @ Oct 23 2008, 10:25 PM) <a href=\"index.php?act=findpost&pid=281496\"><{POST_SNAPBACK}></a></div><div class=\'quotemain\'><!--quotecthanks, theres only one small problem. i have to see this person every week when im at church. that makes it even harder. the whole situation makes my stomach ill just thinking about it, ive never gotten that close to somebody before. it actually kept me away from the forums for awhile, thats how serious it was.Nick<!--QuoteEnd</div><!--QuoteEEndSkip church and sleep in. Problem solved. <img src=\"style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/thumbsup.gif\" style=\"vertical-align:middle\" emoid=\":thumbsup:\" border=\"0\" alt=\"thumbsup.gif\" />
<!--quoteo(post=281508:date=Oct 23 2008, 11:23 PM:name=maximilian)<div class=\'quotetop\'>QUOTE(maximilian @ Oct 23 2008, 11:23 PM) <a href=\"index.php?act=findpost&pid=281508\"><{POST_SNAPBACK}></a></div><div class=\'quotemain\'><!--quotecAdam .........who needs a shrink when we have you !!! that was some good advice .<!--QuoteEnd</div><!--QuoteEEndHah! Thanks, but it's just advice learned from experiences!And yeah.. being members of the same church does create a problem. I've had a similar instance in my life. First off, I would recommend against dating girls that go to your church from now on. Problem solved there. And like other guys have said, you can still go, but don't pay her any attention. It will be VERY tough and despairing at times, but push on (a 3 year relationship is where it gets really messy <img src=\"style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/teehee.gif\" style=\"vertical-align:middle\" emoid=\":teehee:\" border=\"0\" alt=\"teehee.gif\" /> ). And if she does decide to come up and say hello, then say hello back but keep it short and try to get out of the conversation for YOUR sake, until it's all blown over. 2 months can easily be forgotten, feelings-wise. It's just a matter of dedication on your part to detach your heart from the situation.
It sucks but there are more ladies that you meet and you will like. Women can be very strange at times. The best thing is to learn from your mistakes and move on. Like all the other guys said watch a good movie. make it a funny one. Hope you get over your troubles <img src=\"style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/thumbsup.gif\" style=\"vertical-align:middle\" emoid=\":thumbsup:\" border=\"0\" alt=\"thumbsup.gif\" />
ad:\" border=\"0\" alt=\"sad.gif\" /> , she also is lonely and wondering <img src=\"style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/wub.gif\" style=\"vertical-align:middle\" emoid=\":wub:\" border=\"0\" alt=\"wub.gif\" /> where you are at this very moment and only time stand between you two.....
